- How do I know what kind of therapy or support I need?You mostly cannot know from the outside. Find the root first.
- Therapy vs. coaching vs. somatic work: what is the difference?Three tools, three jobs.
- Can I do this while I'm in therapy?Reading about patterns isn't therapy and doesn't take the place of therapy you're in, and nothing here asks you to stop.
- How to Tell If a Healer Is Legit: What to Check Before You BookTo check a healer or practitioner, confirm their certificate with whoever issued it, look up any state license, know what their work doesn't include, and notice how they answer.
- How to know if it's the wrong fitIt may be the wrong fit if you leave sessions feeling unheard, if the approach asks for something you can't give, or if nothing has shifted.
- How to know if it's workingIt may be working if you catch the pattern sooner and do something different a little more often, even while it still shows up.
- Is this for men?Yes, this is for men, as it is for anyone, since it starts from one moment from this month and nothing in it is built for one sex.
- Is this for skeptics?Yes, it is for skeptics, since the method is built to be checked and is allowed to come back with nothing.
- Is this for people who've "done the work"?Yes, it is for people who have done a great deal of work, since it starts from the gap between understanding a pattern and being free of it.
- Therapy didn't work. What now?If therapy didn't work, it may have helped more than it seems, and the limit you reached may be fit, focus or timing and not your effort.
- What a contraindication isA contraindication is a reason not to use a particular approach with a particular person, and each kind-of-work guide here lists who that work may not suit, in its sources' own words.
- What if I'm in crisis tonight?If you are in crisis tonight, call or text 988 in the US, or call 911 or go to an emergency room if you are in immediate danger.
- What if I can't afford it?If you can't afford it, the library is free, and low-cost clinical care may be available where you live.
- What is breathwork, and who is it not for?Breathwork is a family of breathing practices, from slow and calming to fast and intense, and the fast styles come with a published list of people advised to avoid them.
- What is EFT (tapping)?EFT, or Emotional Freedom Techniques, is tapping on points of the body while focusing on a feeling, and it has no state license and several private certifications.
- What is EMDR?EMDR is a structured mental health therapy best known for trauma, and its approved training is open only to licensed clinicians and people on a license track.
- What is hypnotherapy?Hypnotherapy uses hypnosis, a state of focused attention, as part of care, and in Arizona it is offered both by licensed clinicians and by certified hypnotists, with no state license of its own.
- What is internal family systems (IFS)?Internal Family Systems is a model of therapy that works with parts of a person, and its training is open mainly to licensed clinicians, with two different certified titles.
- What is somatic therapy?Somatic therapy is a group of approaches that work with the body as well as with talk, and its best-known training, Somatic Experiencing, is a certificate and not a license.
- What is life coaching?Life coaching is present-focused help with goals and next steps, it needs no license or formal education, and its main credentials come from private bodies such as the ICF.
- What is energy work, such as Reiki?Energy work, such as Reiki, is a hands-on or hands-near practice based on the idea of a healing energy, and NCCIH says no scientific evidence supports that energy field.
- What is talk therapy, and who is licensed to do it in Arizona?Talk therapy, or psychotherapy, is treatment through conversation with a trained professional, and in Arizona it requires a state license you can look up yourself.
- What to do between sessionsBetween sessions the main thing is to notice the pattern when it runs and write it down, along with whatever your practitioner has asked of you.
- What to tell your current therapistYou can tell your current therapist what you've been reading here and what fits, and nothing here asks you to stop therapy.
- When coaching is the right doorCoaching may be the right door when you know what you want to change, you are steady, and what you need is structure and follow-through.
- When therapy is the right doorTherapy is the right door when what you are dealing with is clinical, when you need someone to stay with you over time, or when you are not safe.
- When you need clinical care firstYou need clinical care first when you are not safe, when daily life has become hard to get through, or when alcohol or drugs are involved.
Elsewhere in the library
LibraryThe processHow subtraction works and why the story is not the answer.LibraryUnderstandThe questions people actually ask, answered plainly.LibraryThe 9 rules of worth and safetyWhat each shows up as and what would make it less likely.LibraryProtective strategiesWhat you do to stay safe, and the rules underneath.LibraryCouplesThe two rules that may be meeting under the same fight.LibraryAfter you see the patternNoticing the rule, small experiments, and what to expect.LibraryMeaning mappingWhat you decided a moment meant, and whether it still has to mean that.LibraryParentsYour side of what comes up when you are raising them.
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