- Gentle parenting: why staying calm is so hard for some parentsGentle parenting asks parents to stay calm and kind during hard moments. Here's why that's harder for some parents, and what your reaction can show you.
- How to be a kid againBeing a kid again, as an adult, includes being curious, spontaneous, present and expressive without attacking, and this section is about what gets in the way.
- How to talk to your kids about itThis library gives no parenting advice, so this page says only what you can do on your own side when your children notice you are changing.
- What this section won't tell youThis section gives no parenting advice and says nothing about what children feel or become, and it stays on the parent's side on purpose.
- What your reaction to your child can show youYour reaction to your child is information about you, and when it is bigger than the moment, a rule may be part of the reason.
- When the mess feels like an emergencyWhen the mess feels like an emergency, it may be about things being done the right way, or about heading off what could go wrong.
- When their meltdown sets you offWhen their meltdown sets you off, your reaction may be about someone being upset, about being seen struggling, or about getting it wrong.
- When you can't playWhen you can't play, it may be that play produces nothing, or that stopping to play means nobody is watching for what could go wrong.
- When you hear your own parent in your voiceHearing your own parent in your voice may be a handed-down phrase and nothing more, and it may be something to be curious about.
- When you need them to be okayWhen you need them to be okay, it may be that their upset lands on you as your doing, or that fixing it is where you find your place.
Elsewhere in the library
LibraryThe processHow subtraction works and why the story is not the answer.LibraryUnderstandThe questions people actually ask, answered plainly.LibraryThe 9 rules of worth and safetyWhat each shows up as and what would make it less likely.LibraryProtective strategiesWhat you do to stay safe, and the rules underneath.LibraryCouplesThe two rules that may be meeting under the same fight.LibraryAfter you see the patternNoticing the rule, small experiments, and what to expect.LibraryMeaning mappingWhat you decided a moment meant, and whether it still has to mean that.LibraryHelp and fitmentTherapy, coaching, somatic work: three tools, three jobs.
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