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What to tell your therapist (and how to say it)

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You can tell your therapist what you've been reading here and what fits, and nothing here asks you to stop therapy.

You have a therapist you trust. You have been reading here, and some of it fits. You feel slightly disloyal, and you are not sure how to bring it up.

Telling them is usually the simple thing to do.

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Three things to say

What it is. One session of ninety minutes, on Zoom, using a method called subtraction to look for what may be under a recurring pattern. It is not therapy, medical care, or diagnosis.

What fits. You can show them the page if you want to.

What you are trying. The three steps you were given, including catching the pattern once and logging it.

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One thing to ask

Whether anything in it concerns them. They know you, and they know things about your care that a single session does not.

If they think this is the wrong time, their view counts. On this library's own account, that is a case where the answer is not yet.

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What it does not replace

Your therapy. This library asks a narrow question. Therapy does many things it does not attempt, and What Subtraction Is Not sets out the difference.

Nothing in this library is a reason to stop seeing a clinician, change how often you go, or change a medication.

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Words

The terms here are this library's own. Your therapist may use different words for something similar, and theirs are not wrong. If the two accounts disagree, that is a good thing to talk through with them.

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Who this page tends to suit

Someone in steady, ongoing therapy who wants the two things to sit side by side.

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Who it does not suit

Someone in the middle of a crisis. That conversation is with your clinician, tonight if need be. Licensed mental-health care is the right door.If tonight is an emergency, call or text 988 (US). This library is not that door.

Whether the two can run together at all is on Can I Do This While I'm in Therapy?

Your next step

Read this one page next.

Just one. You don't have to read them all.

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