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Meaning in suffering: what Viktor Frankl meant

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Viktor Frankl was a psychiatrist from Vienna who survived Nazi concentration camps. He believed that when we can't change a painful situation, we can still choose how we carry it. That choice, he said, can give the suffering meaning.

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What this does NOT mean

  • It doesn't mean suffering is good.
  • It doesn't mean you should accept harm you can change. If you can change it, change it.
  • It doesn't mean pain has to have a reason.

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What it does mean

When something can't be undone, like a death or an illness, you still have a say in what you do next. Who you become while carrying it can matter, to you and to others.

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A story Frankl told

Frankl wrote about a man who couldn't get over his wife's death. You can read it on the man who outlived his wife.

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Try this

Think of something hard you can't change. Ask: "Who am I being while I carry this, and who do I want to be?"

Your next step

Read this one page next.

Just one. You don't have to read them all.

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