The session made sense. You followed all of it. You did not cry. Other people describe these things as overwhelming, and you felt very little. You wonder whether it worked.
This page is for someone who expected more feeling than came.
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What tends to happen
You compare. Someone else had a big release, and you had a clear afternoon.
You decide you must be blocked, and start trying to make yourself feel something.
Neither follows. People differ in how much shows, and in how much there is.
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What the method asks for
Two things. Catching the pattern while it runs, and letting the fear under it be tested by what really happens.
A catch is noticing. A test is something that happens out in the world, between you and another person. Neither one is a feeling, and neither one needs you to feel a particular amount.
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What may be under feeling little
Sometimes nothing. Some people are even-tempered, and that is not a rule.
Sometimes one of these, among others.
"Strong is the only version of me they know."
Under Strong, composure can be automatic, engaging before you have decided anything. The fear is that if they see you struggle, you lose the only standing you have.
Read about Strong →"Asking creates a debt I don't want to carry."
Keeping it small may be a way of not putting anything on anyone. The fear is that your needs make you too much, and too much gets left.
Read about Burden →If someone helped you and literally nobody would ever know, would you accept? Yes is the Strong answer. Still no is the Burden answer. If neither fits, there is not enough to tell.
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What to do
Keep going with the catches and the small tests, at whatever level of feeling you have.
Log what happened and not how you felt about it, if that is easier.
Don't go looking for a release. If one comes, it comes.
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When to get it looked at
Feeling little for a long time, about everything, can have causes that have nothing to do with any of this. That belongs with a doctor or a licensed clinician. If it comes with thoughts of harming yourself, licensed mental-health care is the right door.If tonight is an emergency, call or text 988 (US). This library is not that door.
Subtraction works on what you do. It does not grade how much you felt while doing it.
More on feeling little is on I Feel Nothing When I Should Feel Something.