You are good at seeing other people's patterns. You could tell a friend in two sentences what she keeps doing. With your own, you get as far as the same three insights and stop. If I could fix it myself, I would.
It is not impossible, and this library exists to help you get as far as you can alone.
01
Three things that get in the way
You may notice late. The sequence can run fast, and by the time you see it you may be at the end of it, explaining.
You may have a favorite. Of the candidates, one is more flattering or more familiar, and it is hard to look at each one as closely.
And you are both the one reporting what happened and the one deciding what it means. The same person chooses which moments count and what they mean. The moments that would go against your account are easy to leave out without meaning to.
02
One example
You are sure your trouble is that you care too much about people. Every scene you can think of shows you helping.
Someone outside it might ask about the scene you left out: the week when nobody needed anything, and what that was like.
There is a fixed question for it. If they were completely happy and didn't need you at all, how would that land? Empty, or quietly displaced, is the Needed answer, where the fear is that without your usefulness there is no reason for you. Relieved is the Peace answer, where the fear is that someone's disappointment means you did something wrong.
You could have asked yourself that. From inside, though, the helping can look like the whole picture, and the quiet week doesn't come to mind.
And caring about people may be all it is.
03
What can be done alone
A good deal. Most pages here start from a scene, keep at least two candidates open and give a question that separates two of them.
The pages here are written for that use, and they are meant to be worth reading for someone who never books anything.
04
What a second person adds
Someone who is not inside it can hold the candidates evenly and ask about what you skipped. That is the advantage. A trained practitioner can do this. A friend who knows you well can do some of it too, though a friend may already have a settled view of you.
Either way the method is the same. It is subtraction, and either way it can end at not enough to tell.